Am I able to love myself and love my body, but still want to change it?
The reality is that we live in a society which puts down fat bodies. And, most of us have been conditioned to want to change our bodies to fit into society’s ideals. Most of us also struggle to change our bodies to fit in with these unrealistic expectations.
As we go throughout life, we lose weight and we gain it too. That is our reality, and nothing about it is shameful. Throughout this all however, it is very difficult to find body confidence.
But, what about health?
Health can be measured by so many things besides weight loss. Health is emotional, physical, spiritual, environmental, mental, and so much more. We so often focus on thinness, or extreme weight-loss as the ideal version of health when this is not the case, by any means.
You can have health goals or even body confidence goals, but the focus of them should not be weight-loss.
Losing weight won’t make you body confident, just like pretending to love yourself won’t make you body confident either.
It would be unrealistic to say that in order to love ourselves, none of us can ever even think about losing weight. The real issue is that we live in a world that wants us to push beyond the bounds of our health to lose weight. It’s drilled into our heads that we have to shrink our bodies in order to have “good bodies”.
If you’re struggling between the crosshairs of body positivity, body confidence and wanting to lose weight, I would suggest looking deep into yourself to understand the reason behind your desire for weight-loss. Is it to support a movement goal? Is it to support your physical health? Your emotional health? Your answer lies in these very questions.
I’m here to remind you that thinness does not equal health. You can be in a plus-sized body and be healthy.
The bottom line
So, can you want to lose weight and be body confident? I don’t have a yes or no answer for you. I asked this question in a poll on my instagram, and the overwhelming response was, yes, you can be body confident and still want to lose weight. Do I agree? Personally, I believe body confidence and weight loss are two very separate entities. For me, they don’t mix well, but for others they certainly do, and that’s okay.
I encourage those on health and fitness “journeys” to ditch the focus on the scale, on measurements, and on diets; and instead focus on eating good foods, not restricting themselves, and moving in a way that brings you joy. Don’t just single out weight loss, look at your mental, environmental, emotional, health and see where your journey takes you from there.
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