What are positive affirmations?
Positive affirmations are statements you make and repeat to yourself in order to help overcome self-sabotaging thoughts.
Self-sabotaging thoughts occur in all of us, and for a variety of reasons. They can be in reference to your job, life, relationship, even body image.
How they work?
The whole point of an affirmation is that if you repeat something to yourself often enough, you’ll start to believe it.
Sounds crazy? Well, whether you know it or not, you tell yourself negative affirmations all the time.
How many times have you repeatedly said that you are going to fail at something, and then you did?
How many times did you have to tell yourself that your body wasn’t good enough, until you believed it?
When we are bombarded with messaging, we eventually begin to believe it.
I often find myself in a situation where I could get ten compliments from ten different people, and one criticism from one other person. Instead of focusing on those ten compliments, I will focus on that one criticism.
I will repeat that one criticism until I believe it myself. From then on, everything I do, I am thinking about that one criticism. It holds me back from experiences and opportunities, because not only does someone else say this about me, but now I think it as well. And it didn’t take much to get me here, it was just a story I repeated until it became the only plausible explanation.
But what if instead, we only repeated the positive things? What if instead we bombarded ourselves with messages of love? These are positive affirmations.
Creating your own affirmations
When writing positive affirmations, I suggest beginning with the negative statements that you often repeat about your own self.
For me, I would often tell myself this, “I hate my body. I need to lose weight.”
These were never my own thoughts. I promise you, yours are not either. This is the messaging that is shared with us every day in the media. The idea that we need to hate ourselves smaller in order to be happy. And we believe it, because we are told it – over and over.
Change your negative statement into its opposite, and share a gentler message with yourself.
“I hate my body. I need to lose weight” becomes, “I love my body throughout every step of the journey. I accept my body as it is.”
10 body confident affirmations:
I would encourage you to write your own affirmations, tailored to the messaging you know you need to hear. The following are 10 that I have written for myself.
- I am allowed to take up space.
- I am confident in my body.
- I am more than my weight.
- My body belongs just as much as the next person’s.
- I feed my body and move my body because I deserve it.
- I eat for nourishment.
- I am grateful for my body so I treat it with respect.
- I am gentle with my body.
- I love my body throughout every step of the journey.
- I accept my body as it is today.
I’m not saying positive affirmations will cure your body image woes, change your job security status, and fix your relationships. Nothing works that easily. But it’s such an important place to start from. Once you have the ability to validate yourself, believe in yourself, and find confidence within yourself, you will open so many doors, and work that much harder (and smarter) for positive change in your own life.