Have you ever found yourself saying “I can’t do _____ because I’m not _____ enough. But soon, once I’m _____ enough I will do it”? I have, and for me it looked like this:
“I can’t go to this event with my friends because I’m not thin enough. But soon, once I’m thin enough I’ll do it.”
Before I knew it, the event had passed, and I never did it. Why? Well, I was never thin enough.
This is just one example of many.
How many experiences do we avoid, skip, or miss out on because we feel like we aren’t enough?
And when do you become enough?
Is it when you become small enough?
And how do you know when you’ve finally become ‘enough’? Will there be alarm bells ringing? Will you suddenly feel joy in that very moment? Will others start to notice?
Or, will something else come up? Maybe you’ll never be ‘enough’ because your criteria will constantly change? Will society expect new things from you? Will your family, will your friends, will you? Will your own constantly evolving expectations hold you back from experiencing the joys of life?
We can tell ourselves a thousand times that we don’t deserve certain experiences because we aren’t enough. We can live to regret missing out on these experiences too.
Or, you can question these beliefs. Why aren’t you enough? Who put this messaging there? Why cant you be enough, as you are?
It’s okay to want to change things in your life. But that doesn’t also mean that you can’t and don’t deserve to enjoy other things in the moment.
One day, you’ll sit back and look at how life has passed you by, and I promise you in that moment, you won’t be wishing you’d missed out on or waited for experiences until you felt you were ‘enough’. You’ll simply be grateful for the journey it took you on.